I have either been
listening out for negative talk or I am just dealing with too many negative
people around me lately. I hear negativity all around these days. People who
want to dampen others' spirits, those who think they can validate their
existence by making others feel worthless, humanity is constantly hurt by
humans.
It gets to a point
where I predict what someone will say negatively so that when the outcome is
contrary to my perceived thought, I celebrate. At times, self doubt kicks in after a negative
comment and you may actually lose faith in yourself in the process. That is how
humans kills silently. By shutting others up, mostly with mundane ideologies
drawn from their own inadequacies.
Here is the thing,
yesterday I had a really bad day. I had tears welling up in my eyes every seven
minutes or so. It started the previous evening, someone tried very hard to make me
feel worthless and abused my intelligence needless to say that it was in
public. I was enraged and when I am, I don’t talk or cry, I smile and I hate
it. I don’t know where this stupid fake smile comes from. But it always confuses
the other person.
There was a permanent
thing around my neck. The thing that makes you feel like you want to swallow a
potato but you can’t. It was my neck ornament for the day. I tried
wearing heels to feel good. Marilyn Monroe said good shoes lift moods, right?
Well it dint work. I called my mother. This is supposed to be the ultimate
drill to change moods, well let’s just say it just dint feel any better.
By evening, I was still in a foul mood. But my face was all things happy, I
smiled, laughed and would hear my soul struggling to keep its sorrow amidst the
laughter.
When I was leaving the
office, my friend called me for a coffee date. “Not a bad way to end a bad day”
I thought. We had a little chit chat, catching up and she asked me a question
that made me realize, there was no reason at all to focus on the negative
things in life. She found it amazing how I juggle being a mum, a wife, a career
woman and still do other stuff on the side. I said I have it in me, that energy to
keep going. I listened to my self say those words and I smiled. I had it
in me, all this while. I had it in me to stay positive and not let any other
person bring me down.
On my way home after
the date, wait, I have a colleague who insists if its a meeting between two girls
or two men its not a date but a meeting. But this was, Monica had this hoarse voice from a
cold she got as a way to welcome her back to her motherland. Her voice was so bad you
should have seen how people stared when we laughed out loud. You could see them
conclude by raising their eyebrows that we were on a date and that Monica was
the one :) Hahaha get well soon and enjoy your stay.
Where were we, ooh
going home. I thought of people who face so much negativity and have still not realized
that they have it within them to stay positive and said I will let them know
how to stay positive among negative people;
1. Limit the time you
spend with people of negative energy.
2. Know that you are
the best version of yourself, accept that and never try to be anyone else.
3. Weird is rad. Many
people think that just because you are not like them, then you are weird, you’re thought
processes are skewed, may be unacceptable, because it not normal, well that's
okay, weird is rad, rock it!
4. Know what is best
for you, listen to advice since negative people are always willing to offer
it, then go ahead and do what ever it is you were going to do
anyway.
5. Expect less.
6. Feed on positive
thoughts and store up for a rainy day.
7. Spread positivism to
others, it renews you.
8. Analyze
people. No, really, know the people you are dealing with, that way you their
actions won’t surprise you.
9. Do not answer to a
negative thought, it may damaged you. Refer to no. 1.
10. Love covers all
things, spread it.
Lets
make love, not damaged humans!!
